Everyone in life is hit with adversity at some point. When you and/or someone you love experience some type of tragic circumstance or interference, you must find yourself a new dream. Even if someone you once loved/thought was meant to be a part of your life is no longer here. You must accept circumstances and not let this change taint you or your heart. Healing from painful circumstances like the pain of divorce or the loss of a loved one can be difficult for people and their families, but we are all capable of healing, just like we are all capable of falling in love with more than one person in a lifetime at any age. As the saying goes.. "time heals all wounds." One of my biggest role models for love at any age was my widowed grandfather George ("Poppies"), who remarried after being widowed after 50 years of marriage in his 80s!
Though love can feel great when young or old - sometimes others - especially those NOT following a heart path or who don't have deep felt connection in their own relationships - don't like it or understand it. I find this especially to be true with those going through new found changes…, that is why people who find love again after divorce or widowhood often make new friends and associations, to start a clean slate. This may include the exclusion of some family too.
For a while, there may be people in your life who may not understand your needs to let certain aspects of your past go, including people, places and/or belongings that keep them stuck in the past. Othertimes, those in your life may not be able to share in your newfound happiness (as they may feel stuck or unable to make the breakthroughs or necessary changes they need to make things better in their own relationships through healing or therapy, etc..) Therefore, those not understanding you or your decisions (because they are not dealing with their own) may not be the best energy to have in your life when you embark on changes. Only you know what decisions, people and places are really right for you with whatever road you take and whoever you choose to be with on your journey - and that includes in the best interest of your children too. Once you "strip away" conditioning and unconscious habits - you can really choose what road is best with confidence, regardless of what other people think. Looking to your contemporaries and their decisions doesn't work.. as your life and choices are not theres! Everyone may want you to go one way.. and deep down you know your decision leads you another way. When this occurs, you have to stick to your guns.. as your decisions and circumstances are unique to you and your higher self… and if others judge you - so what?! they are NOT you.. and until someone walks in your shoes, they really cannot judge you or your heart.